Purposeful Promiscuity

Updated: Aug 28, 2018

I have no problem admitting that I have embraced my inner slut.

My sexual energy is super-charged, and I have learnt how to tap into it for all creative aspects of my life. I thrive on it. I embrace it. I’m conscious of it and how it works, how it affects me. I fucking love it, and better still, I own that shit!

You see, I think everyone has a little slut inside them. A life force that simmers in their veins, their loins, either empowering or suppressing the energy that manifests greatness in life. The problem is that we are so caught up in taboos that even the mention of the word slut sends our defences into overdrive.

The dictionary says a slut is a ‘sexually promiscuous woman’ or ‘a person with a seemingly insatiable desire’. . And I don’t know about you, but when I read that I kind of think, yeah that sums me up pretty well 😉. The problem though is that we are led to believe promiscuity and casual sex is always a bad thing. I don’t necessarily think that’s the case.

Let me explain…

When it comes to sex, I don’t do anything unconsciously. I don’t fuck for the sake of fucking. I don’t ‘hook up’ with people to get my kicks. I don’t focus on how many people I can sleep with, how many notches I’ve got on my belt. I don’t seek out multiple casual encounters, despite sometimes having multiple partners. Best believe that when I ‘fuck’ I do so with a purpose.

And that purpose is energetic connection. A transfer of energy, an electric chemistry, a feeling that gets my blood pumping.

See where I’m going here?

We too often define what sex should be like based on the number of partners we have, based on ideas of monogamy, based on labels, instead of encouraging our own sexual exploration and others with an open heart, an open mind and desire to create connections rather than simply have sex.

And connections can be based on anything! Friendship, love, passion, lust, joy, excitement, magic, physicality. Either way, sexual energy should be embraced and used as a means of empowerment. If this isn’t the case, then the number of partners you have is irrelevant anyway! You can fuck one person for the rest of your life without ever really feeling an energetic spark, a conscious power, ecstatic pleasure. Similarly, you could be single and sleeping around with multiple gorgeous partners weekly and never experience those things.


You can choose to stop being content with mediocre and start listening to your inner ‘conscious’ slut. You can start choosing to look for something more when you have sex, make love, fuck… You can stop feeling limited by society’s views on sex, who you should have it with, when you should have it and how, and start looking a little deeper, start using your sexual energy to create some powerful connections, share some magical energy and really enjoy every second of your sexual encounters, with one person solely or with as many as you want!

When you engage in intimacy, no matter the scenario, try to remember that the key is purpose!

Don’t fuck just to fuck. Don’t kiss just to kiss. Don’t make love because that’s what you’re supposed to do. Don’t open your legs to just anyone. Don’t stick your dick in a hole just because. Instead, start practising purposeful promiscuity. Start transferring energy. Start feeling something more then just the orgasm at the end, if you even get that far! Stop being scared to feel something and stop confusing sexual energy with other feelings such as love.

Then, and only then, will you truly achieve a sex life worth being talked about for…